🌸 NIKAH KNOWLEDGE 🌸
A Complete Islamic Guide to Marriage
📖 THE BLESSING OF NIKAH
✨ Nikah Completes Half Your Deen
Our Beloved Prophet Muhammad 🌹 said:
"When a person marries, he completes half his Deen. Now he should fear Allah regarding the remaining half."
(Mishkat Sharif, Volume 2, Hadith 2962, Page 72)
👑 Nikah is My Sunnah
The Pride of the Universe, Prophet Muhammad 🌹 said:
"Nikah is my Sunnah."
(Ibn Majah, Volume 1, Hadith 1913, Page 518)
📿 Command from Allah
Allah Almighty says in the Quran:
"And marry those among you who please you from among the women."
(Translation: Kanzul Iman, Para 4, Surah Nisa, Verse 3)
💍 Marry Even with a Ring of Iron
Hazrat Sahl bin Sa'd (RA) narrates that the Prophet 🌹 said:
"Marry, even if it is with an iron ring."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Page 80, Hadith 136)
🕌 Advice for Youth
Hazrat Abdullah bin Mas'ud (RA) narrates that the Prophet 🌹 said:
"O young men! Those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains the eyes and preserves chastity. And those who cannot should fast, for it is a protection for him."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Page 52; Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Page 533)
🚺 THE COMMANDMENTS OF PURDAH (VEIL)
📜 Quranic Command on Purdah
Allah Almighty commands:
"And command the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their chastity, and not to reveal their adornment except what appears of it. And let them draw their veils over their bosoms, and not reveal their adornment except to their husbands."
(Kanzul Iman, Para 18, Surah Noor, Verse 31)
🌙 Warning About Free Mixing
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Woman is 'Awrah (something to be concealed). When she goes out, Shaytan looks at her."
(Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 1173, Page 600)
🔥 Curse on Deliberate Gazing
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Allah's curse is upon the man who deliberately looks at a non-mahram woman, and upon the woman who deliberately displays herself to non-mahram men."
(Mishkat Sharif, Volume 2, Hadith 2991, Page 77)
🌑 Darkness on Judgment Day
Hazrat Maimuna bint Sa'd (RA) narrates that the Prophet 🌹 said:
"A woman who walks arrogantly adorned for others besides her husband is like darkness on the Day of Judgment with no light."
(Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 1166, Page 597)
👁️ The Gaze is Adultery
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"When a man looks at a non-mahram woman, or a woman looks at a non-mahram man, their eyes commit adultery."
(Kashful Mahjub, Page 568)
👥 The Third is Shaytan
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"When a non-mahram man and woman are alone together, the third among them is Shaytan."
(Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 1171, Page 599)
⚠️ Warning About In-Laws
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Beware of entering upon non-mahram women."
A companion asked: "O Messenger of Allah, what about the husband's brother (brother-in-law)?"
The Prophet replied: "The husband's brother is like death."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Hadith 216, Page 108; Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 1171, Page 599)
💑 RIGHTS OF THE WIFE
📖 Quranic Command on Kindness
Allah Almighty commands:
"And treat them (women) kindly."
(Kanzul Iman, Para 4, Surah Nisa, Verse 19)
💍 Fulfill the Mehr
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Take great care of fulfilling the condition of marriage, i.e., the Mehr (dowry)."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Page 80)
😔 The Worst of Men
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"The worst man is the one who torments his wife."
(Tabrani Sharif)
💞 The Best of You
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"The best among you is the one who is best to his wives, and I am the best among you to my wives."
(Ibn Majah, Volume 1, Hadith 2047, Page 551; Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Page 595)
⚖️ Justice Between Co-Wives
Hazrat Abu Huraira (RA) narrates that the Prophet 🌹 said:
"When a man has two wives and he is inclined towards only one, he will come on the Day of Judgment with half his body fallen."
(Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 1137, Page 584; Ibn Majah, Volume 1, Page 549)
🌸 Characteristics of the Best Wife
✓ Obedient – Considers serving and obeying her husband her duty
✓ Fulfills Rights – Does not neglect any of her husband's rights
✓ Sees Goodness – Focuses on her husband's virtues, overlooks minor faults
(Note: Faults refer to shortcomings, not sins. If the husband commits sin, it is the wife's duty to stop him)
✓ Contentment – Does not demand beyond her husband's income; remains patient and grateful
✓ Selfless – Endures hardship to provide comfort to her husband
✓ Chaste – Lowers her gaze from non-mahram men and protects herself from others' gazes
✓ Protects Honor – Observes purdah and safeguards her husband's respect
✓ Trustworthy – Treats her husband's wealth, home, and herself as a trust
✓ Loyal – Proves loyalty through sacrifice in times of difficulty
✓ Patient – Bears her husband's temperament and injustice with patience
✓ Respected – Honored in both her parental home and in-laws' home
✓ Good Character – Behaves well with neighbors and other women
✓ Pious – Observes religious duties and fulfills rights of Allah and people
✓ Forbearing – Tolerates bitter words from in-laws
✓ Selfless – Feeds everyone before eating herself
📜 Husband's Obligations to His Wife
Allah Almighty commands:
"And treat them (women) kindly."
(Kanzul Iman, Para 4, Surah Nisa, Verse 19)
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"The best among you are those who treat women well."
(Mishkat Sharif, Part 2, Page 282)
🚫 Prohibition of Physical Abuse
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Never beat your wife like you beat your slave, then at night you share intimacy with her."
(Mishkat Sharif, Volume 2, Page 280)
💔 Warning Against Hatred
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"No believing man should hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one habit of hers, he will find another that pleases him."
(Mishkat Sharif, Volume 2, Page 280)
🤝 Advice on Women's Nature
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Treat women kindly, for they were created from a rib. The most crooked part of the rib is its top. If you try to straighten it, you will break it. If you leave it, it remains crooked. So treat women kindly."
(Muslim Sharif)
"And breaking it means divorce."
📢 Farewell Sermon's Advice
In his famous Farewell Sermon, the Prophet 🌹 said:
"O people! I advise you to treat women well. Accept my advice. Indeed, they have rights over you, and you have rights over them. Feed them and clothe them kindly."
(Ibn Majah)
👑 RIGHTS OF THE HUSBAND
📖 They are Your Garments
Allah Almighty says:
"They are your garments, and you are their garments."
(Kanzul Iman, Para 2, Surah Baqarah, Verse 187)
🕌 Prostration to Husband
Hazrat Ayesha (RA) and Hazrat Abu Huraira (RA) narrate that the Prophet 🌹 said:
"If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands."
(Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 1158, Page 594)
🌟 The Best Woman
When asked about the best woman, the Prophet 🌹 replied:
"The woman who obeys her husband."
(Nisa'i Sharif, Volume 2, Page 364)
⚠️ Ingratitude to Husband
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Being ungrateful to one's husband is a form of Kufr (disbelief), and one Kufr is lesser than the other."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 28, Page 109)
🔥 Majority in Hellfire
Hazrat Abdullah bin Abbas (RA) narrates that the Prophet 🌹 said:
"I was shown Hellfire and saw that most of its inhabitants were women."
The companions asked: "Did they disbelieve in Allah?"
The Prophet replied: "No, they were ungrateful to their husbands and denied their kindness. If you do good to one of them all your life, and she sees one thing from you that displeases her, she will say: 'I have never seen any good from you.'"
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 28, Page 109)
📛 Greatest Sin After Shirk
Hazrat Umar (RA) narrates that the Prophet 🌹 said:
"Do you not know that for a woman, the greatest sin after Shirk is disobeying her husband?"
(Gunyatut Talebin, Page 114)
🌃 Curse on Refusal
Hazrat Abu Huraira (RA) narrates that the Prophet 🌹 said:
"When a husband calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Hadith 178, Page 96)
🍞 Priority to Husband
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"When a husband calls his wife for intimacy, even if she is baking bread, she should leave everything and come to him."
(Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 1159, Page 595)
💭 The Immense Right of Husband
A young woman came to the Prophet 🌹 and said:
"O Messenger of Allah! I am young. I receive marriage proposals but I consider marriage bad. Tell me, what right does a husband have over his wife?"
The Prophet replied: "If from his head to his toes, there was pus and she licked it clean, she still would not have fulfilled his right."
She asked: "Should I not marry then?"
The Prophet said: "Marry, for there is goodness in it."
(Mukashifatul Quloob, Chapter 95, Page 617)
👑 Characteristics of the Best Husband
✓ Kind – Treats his wife with gentleness, good character, and kindness
✓ Fulfills Rights – Does not neglect any of his wife's rights
✓ Faithful – So devoted to his wife that he doesn't look at other women
✓ Equal Partner – Considers his wife his equal in comfort
✓ Just – Does not oppress or wrong his wife
✓ Patient – Bears his wife's temper and bad habits with patience
✓ Forgiving – Focuses on her virtues, overlooks minor mistakes
✓ Loyal – Shows loyalty through care during hardships and illness
✓ Protective – Observes purdah and protects her honor
✓ Religious Guide – Encourages piety and guides her on Shariah
✓ Provider – Earns halal livelihood for his wife and family
✓ Respectful – Treats her family and friends well
✓ Dignified – Protects her from humiliation and disgrace
✓ Generous – Not miserly in fulfilling her needs
✓ Guiding – Guides her away from evil
👰 CONSENT IN MARRIAGE
🗣️ Permission of the Bride
Hazrat Abu Huraira (RA) and Hazrat Abdullah bin Abbas (RA) narrate that the Prophet 🌹 said:
"A virgin should not be married until her permission is sought. Her silence is her consent. And a widow should not be married until she is consulted."
(Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Page 566)
Imam Bukhari (RA) narrates:
Hazrat Ayesha (RA) said: "O Messenger of Allah! A virgin feels shy to give permission for marriage."
The Prophet replied: "Her silence is her permission."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Hadith 124, Page 76)
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Permission should be sought from a mature virgin. If she remains silent, that is her permission. If she refuses, there is no coercion upon her."
(Tirmizi Sharif, Hadith 1101, Volume 1, Page 567)
💒 MARRIAGE GUIDELINES
👥 Witnesses Required
Hazrat Ibn Abbas (RA) narrates that the Prophet 🌹 said:
"Women who marry without witnesses are adulteresses."
(Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 1095, Page 563)
📅 Best Time for Nikah
Hazrat Shaykh Abdul Qadir Jilani (RA) states:
"It is Mustahab (preferred) to perform Nikah on Thursday or Friday, and better to perform it in the evening rather than morning."
(Gunyatut Talebin, Chapter 5, Page 115)
🤫 Privacy of Intimacy
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"The one who speaks about intimate matters among people is like a male Shaytan and female Shaytan who meet and openly commit adultery in front of people."
(Abu Dawood, Volume 2, Hadith 407, Page 155)
🚫 Curse on Evil Gazing
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Allah's curse is upon the one who looks with evil intent and upon the one at whom the evil gaze is directed."
(Bayhaqi Sharif; Mishkat Sharif, Volume 2, Page 77)
🏡 WHERE TO MARRY
🌱 Choose Good Lineage
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Seek a good place for your offspring. Marry within your community, and let marriage take place within your kinship, for women know similar ones from their own kin."
(Ibn Majah, Volume 1, Hadith 2038, Page 549; Bayhaqi Sharif)
💎 Four Criteria for Choosing a Wife
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"A woman is married for four reasons: her wealth, her beauty, her lineage, and her piety. Choose the pious one, may you be blessed."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Page 59; Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Page 555)
⚠️ Warning Against Material Motives
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Do not marry women for their beauty, for their beauty may destroy you. Do not marry them for their wealth, for their wealth may lead you to sin. Marry them for their Deen. A black, flat-nosed, ugly slave woman who is pious is better."
(Ibn Majah, Volume 1, Hadith 1926, Page 522)
🚫 PROHIBITED MARRIAGES
🤱 Foster Relationships
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Through foster relationships, the same relationships become forbidden as through blood relations."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Page 62; Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Page 587)
(Meaning: If someone drank milk from a woman in childhood, she becomes like a mother, and her daughter becomes like a sister – marriage is forbidden.)
📖 Quranic Prohibitions
Allah Almighty commands in the Quran:
"Forbidden to you are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your paternal aunts, your maternal aunts, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your foster mothers, your foster sisters, the mothers of your wives..."
(Kanzul Iman, Para 4, Surah Nisa, Verse 23)
🔢 Four Wives Maximum
Hazrat Abdullah bin Abbas (RA) narrates:
"More than four wives are forbidden, just as a man's daughter and sister are forbidden."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Page 64)
🚫 Marriage with Non-Believers
Allah commands:
"Do not marry polytheistic women until they believe."
(Kanzul Iman, Para 2, Surah Baqarah, Verse 221)
Allah commands:
"And do not marry polytheistic men to believing women until they believe."
(Kanzul Iman, Para 2, Surah Baqarah, Verse 221)
🎉 WALIMA (WEDDING FEAST)
🐑 Walima Command
Hazrat Abdur Rahman bin Auf (RA) narrates that the Prophet 🌹 said:
"Perform Walima, even if with one goat."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Page 85)
🌾 The Prophet's Walima
Hazrat Safiya bint Shaiba (RA) says:
"The Prophet* 🌹 *performed Walima for some of his wives with two measures of barley."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Page 87)
📩 Accepting Invitations
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"When anyone among you is invited to Walima, he should attend."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Page 87)
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Whoever does not accept an invitation has disobeyed Allah and His Messenger."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Hadith 163, Page 88)
🚪 Etiquette of Invitations
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Accept invitations when you are invited."
And said: "Whoever goes to a feast without invitation enters as a thief and leaves as a plunderer."
(Abu Dawood, Volume 3, Hadith 342, Page 130)
⚖️ The Worst Walima
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"The worst food is that of Walima where only the rich are invited and the poor are ignored."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Page 88)
🕋 ISLAMIC GUIDE FOR THE WEDDING NIGHT
🌙 The Blessed Night Begins
Step 1: Enter with Salam
When the groom enters the room, first greet with Salam, inquire about well-being, and have a gentle conversation.
Step 2: Dua on the Forehead
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"When a person marries and goes to his bride on the first night, he should gently take a few hairs from her forehead with his right hand and recite this prayer:"
اَللّٰهُمَّ اِنِّيْ اَسْأَلُكَ مِنْ خَيْرِهَا وَخَيْرِ مَا فِيْهَا وَخَيْرِ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ وَاَعُوْذُبِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَشَرِّ مَا فِيْهَا وَشَرِّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ
Translation:
"O Allah, I ask You for the goodness of her and the goodness within her, and the goodness of her nature. And I seek refuge in You from the evil of her and the evil within her, and the evil of her nature."
*(Abu Dawood, Volume 2, Page 150; Hisn-e-Hasin, Page 164)*
Step 3: Perform Wudu and Pray Together
If not in a state of ablution, perform Wudu and pray 2 rakats of Nafl prayer together in congregation:
The groom leads as Imam
The bride follows behind
Intention:
"I intend to pray 2 rakats Nafl prayer for gratitude, facing the Kaaba, Allahu Akbar."
Make this supplication after prayer:
"O Allah, we thank You for showing us this day, blessing us with this happiness, and granting us the ability to follow the Sunnah of Your Beloved Prophet* 🌹 *."
"O Allah, keep this happiness forever, grant us a life of love and harmony, and bless us with pious and obedient children. Ameen."
Step 4: Dua Before Intimacy
Before intimacy, recite this dua:
بِسْمِ اللّٰهِ، اَللّٰهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا
Translation:
"In the name of Allah. O Allah, keep Shaytan away from us, and keep Shaytan away from what You bless us with (children)."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Page 85; Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Page 557)
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Whoever recites this dua at the time of intimacy, if Allah grants them a child, Shaytan will never be able to harm that child."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Page 85; Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Page 557)
💝 Important Clarification: A Common Misconception
Many people believe that bleeding during first intimacy is necessary to prove virginity. This is incorrect!
The Truth:
The hymen is a thin membrane that can tear due to various reasons:
Sports or physical activity
Accidents or falls
Menstruation
Natural causes
Islamic Ruling:
"If the hymen tears due to jumping, menstruation, injury, or age, the woman is truly a virgin (pure and chaste)."
(Tanwirul Absar; Fatawa Razviya, Volume 12, Page 36)
💞 ETIQUETTE OF INTIMACY IN ISLAM
📿 General Guidelines
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"When anyone among you goes to his wife, he should observe privacy and not be like an animal."
(Ibn Majah, Volume 1, Hadith 1990, Page 538)
Hazrat Ayesha (RA) narrates that the Prophet 🌹 said:
"When a man takes his wife's hand to comfort her, Allah writes one good deed for him. When he lovingly puts his arm around her, ten good deeds are written. When he is intimate with her, it is better than the world and everything in it."
(Gunyatut Talebin, Page 113)
📿 Important Rulings
| Ruling | Detail |
|---|---|
| Frequency | No fixed limit, but should satisfy the wife's needs |
| After Intimacy | Avoid drinking water immediately – may cause breathing issues |
| Between Intimacies | Perform Wudu if desiring to repeat |
| Thoughts | Thinking of another woman during intimacy is a minor form of adultery |
| Talking | Speaking during intimacy is Makruh – may cause child to stammer |
| Breastfeeding | If wife is nursing, avoid swallowing milk – milk is Halal but swallowing intentionally is not allowed |
| Kissing Breast | Allowed; if done with good intention, reward is hoped for |
| Looking | Avoid looking at private parts – may weaken eyesight and cause forgetfulness |
🚫 Forbidden Acts
Anal intercourse is strictly forbidden:
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Allah will not look with mercy on the Day of Judgment upon the one who has anal intercourse with his wife."
(Bukhari Sharif, Tirmizi, Ibn Majah)
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Whoever has intercourse with a woman or man through the anus has certainly committed disbelief."
(Abu Dawood)
Allah says:
"Your wives are your tilth. So come to your tilth as you wish, but send forth something good for yourselves."
(Kanzul Iman, Para 2, Surah Baqarah, Verse 223)
🌸 Quranic Permission
Allah Almighty says:
"It is made lawful for you to go to your wives on the nights of fasting."
(Kanzul Iman, Para 2, Surah Baqarah, Verse 187)
🚺 Women Perfuming Themselves
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"When a woman perfumes herself and passes by people so they may smell her fragrance, she is an adulteress."
(Abu Dawood, Volume 3, Page 264)
👶 FAMILY PLANNING & CHILDREN
📿 'Azl (Coitus Interruptus)
'Azl means – Withdrawing during intimacy to prevent conception
Permissibility of 'Azl
Hazrat Jabir (RA) narrates:
"We used to practice 'Azl during the time of the Prophet* 🌹 *while the Quran was being revealed."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Hadith 193, Page 101; Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 1134, Page 583)
Condition of Permission
The Prophet 🌹 forbade 'Azl with a free woman (wife) without her permission.
(Ibn Majah Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 1997, Page 539)
What is Destined Will Happen
A person came to the Prophet 🌹 and said:
"O Messenger of Allah! I have a slave woman with whom I practice 'Azl because I don't want her to become pregnant."
The Prophet replied: "If you wish, practice 'Azl, but whatever is destined will be born."
After some time, the same person returned and said: "She has given birth!"
The Prophet said: "I told you that whatever is destined will happen."
(Abu Dawood, Volume 2, Hadith 406, Page 154)
Natural Family Planning
Tip for You:
Conception is unlikely one week before menstruation and one week after purity
These are times when ovulation typically doesn't occur
👧 TREASURE YOUR DAUGHTERS
❤️ Love for Daughters
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Whoever has a daughter and does not bury her alive, nor humiliates her, nor prefers his son over her, Allah will admit him to Paradise."
(Abu Dawood, Volume 3, Hadith 1705, Page 616)
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Whoever raises two daughters or sisters, teaches them good manners, loves them kindly, and gets them married, Allah will surely admit him to Paradise."
(Abu Dawood, Volume 3, Hadith 1706, Page 617)
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Those who lovingly raise their daughters will find them a shield from Hellfire."
(Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 1980, Page 901)
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Whoever raises two daughters until they mature, he and I will be close like this on the Day of Judgment."
(He joined his two fingers to demonstrate)
(Muslim Sharif)
⚠️ Warning Against Female Infanticide
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"The greatest sin is associating partners with Allah. Then the next greatest sin is killing your child for fear of poverty."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 3, Hadith 939, Page 345)
💔 Modern Tragedy
Today, science is misused through X-rays and sonography to determine the baby's gender. If it's a girl, the child is often aborted.
O believers! Fear Allah. He is aware of all your deeds.
Such people are murderers of their children and sinners. They will be punished on the Day of Judgment and deprived of Paradise.
There is no difference between a son and a daughter. Both are blessings from Allah.
🧼 RULINGS ON PURITY (GHUSL)
📚 When is Ghusl Obligatory?
Emission of Mani – With desire, exiting the body
Wet Dream – Mani emission during sleep
Insertion – Penetration of the glans, whether with desire or not, whether emission occurs or not
End of Menstruation
End of Postnatal Bleeding
📖 The Prophetic Method of Ghusl
Intention:
"I intend to perform Ghusl to remove impurity."
Step-by-Step Method:
Wash both hands up to the wrists three times
Wash private parts and surrounding area
Remove any impurity from the body
Perform Wudu (ablution):
Rinse mouth thoroughly three times
Clean nostrils three times
Wash face three times
Wash arms to elbows three times
Wipe head
Pour water over body three times:
Start with right shoulder (three times)
Then left shoulder (three times)
Then entire body
Rub gently to ensure water reaches everywhere
Wash feet if not washed during Wudu
Important: Water must reach:
Hair roots
Underarms
Every part of private areas
Move rings to let water underneath
Women should ensure water reaches hair roots (undo braids if water cannot reach)
💧 Obligations (Faraid) of Ghusl
| Obligation | Details |
|---|---|
| Mouth Rinsing | Water must reach every part of mouth, gums, teeth, and throat |
| Nose Cleansing | Water must reach the soft part of nostrils |
| Whole Body | Every external part from head to toe must be washed |
⚠️ Common Mistakes to Avoid
| Body Part | Caution |
|---|---|
| Hair | Ensure water reaches roots |
| Ears | Behind ears, jewelry openings |
| Chin & Neck | Lift to reach the fold |
| Underarms | Raise arms |
| Navel | Put finger inside to wash |
| Back | Every part |
| Knee folds | Straighten legs |
| Between buttocks | Ensure water reaches |
| Under breasts | Lift breasts |
📅 MENSTRUATION (HAIZ) & POSTNATAL BLEEDING (NIFAS)
🩸 Definitions
| Term | Definition |
|---|---|
| Haiz | Blood that exits naturally from a mature woman's private part, not due to illness or childbirth |
| Nifas | Blood that comes after childbirth |
| Istehaza | Blood due to illness (not Haiz or Nifas) |
📏 Duration
| Type | Minimum | Maximum |
|---|---|---|
| Haiz | 3 days & nights (72 hours) | 10 days & nights |
| Nifas | No minimum | 40 days & nights |
🚫 Prohibitions During Haiz/Nifas
| Action | Ruling |
|---|---|
| Prayer | Forbidden; no Qadha required |
| Fasting | Forbidden; Qadha required later |
| Quran Recitation | Forbidden |
| Touching Quran | Forbidden |
| Staying in Mosque | Forbidden |
| Tawaf | Forbidden |
| Intimacy | Forbidden |
📖 Quranic Command
Allah says:
"And keep away from women during menstruation, and do not approach them until they become pure. When they have purified themselves, then come to them as Allah has commanded you."
(Kanzul Iman, Para 2, Surah Baqarah, Verse 222)
🧼 Purification Method
Hazrat Ayesha (RA) narrates:
A woman asked the Prophet* 🌹 *about Ghusl after menstruation. He instructed her and said: "Take a piece of cotton with musk and purify yourself with it."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 1, Hadith 305, Page 201)
(Note: Today, rose water or perfume can be used instead of musk)
📋 Fasting & Menstruation
| Situation | Ruling |
|---|---|
| Haiz begins while fasting | Fast breaks; Qadha required |
| Becomes pure after Fajr | Cannot fast that day (even if purified before noon) |
| Becomes pure during day | Should act like fasting person for remaining day; Qadha required |
| Forced into intimacy | No Kaffarah (fast already broken) |
| Wet dream during sleep | Fast remains valid |
| Intentionally causes emission | Fast breaks |
👶 NAMING YOUR CHILDREN
💫 Choose Beautiful Names
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Allah said: By My Honor and Majesty, I will not punish the one who is named after My Beloved (Muhammad)."
*(Ahkam-e-Shariat, Volume 1, Page 81)*
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"The one who has three sons and does not name any of them Muhammad is indeed ignorant."
*(Tabrani Sharif; Ahkam-e-Shariat, Volume 1, Page 83)*
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"You will be called on the Day of Judgment by your names and your fathers' names. So choose beautiful names."
(Imam Ahmed; Abu Dawood, Volume 3, Hadith 1513, Page 550)
The Prophet 🌹 used to change bad names.
(Tirmizi Sharif, Volume 2, Hadith 746, Page 301; Abu Dawood, Volume 3, Hadith 1517, Page 551)
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"The most beloved names to Allah are Abdullah and Abdur Rahman."
(Abu Dawood, Volume 3, Hadith 1513, Page 550)
⚠️ THE GRAVITY OF ZINA (ADULTERY)
📖 Quranic Command
"And do not approach Zina. Indeed, it is an abomination and an evil way."
(Kanzul Iman, Para 15, Surah Bani Israel, Verse 32)
(Surah Furqan, Verse 68)
🔥 Punishments & Consequences
Hadith on Zina's Effects:
"Zina creates poverty and destroys the light of the face. Allah has decreed: I will make the adulterer poor, even if after some time."
*(Kanzul Ummal, Kitab-ul-Hudood, Hadith 13018)*
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"Beware of Zina, for it destroys the freshness of the body, causes perpetual poverty, and leads to Allah's anger, severe accountability, and eternal Hellfire."
(Imam Baihaqi, Shubul Iman, Hadith 5478)
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"When Zina and interest become prevalent in a town, its inhabitants have made lawful Allah's punishment upon themselves."
*(Mustadrak, Kitab-ul-Buyu, Hadith 2308)*
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"The nation in which Zina becomes widespread will face famine. The nation in which bribery becomes widespread will face terror."
*(Mishkat, Kitab-ul-Hudood, Hadith 3582)*
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"The seven heavens and seven earths curse the adulterer. The stench of the adulterer's private parts will torment the inhabitants of Hell."
*(Majma-uz-Zawaid, Kitab-ul-Hudood, Hadith 10541)*
Hazrat Abdullah bin Abbas (RA) used to tell youth:
"When you wish to marry, I will arrange your marriage. Because when a person commits Zina, faith leaves his heart."
*(Imam Ibn Jauzi, Bahr-ud-Damu, Page 230)*
🔍 What Constitutes Zina?
Zina is – A man having intercourse with a woman who is not his wife.
🚫 Even the Gaze is Zina
The Prophet 🌹 said:
"When a non-mahram man and woman look at each other, their eyes commit Zina."
(Kashful Mahjub, Page 568)
Imam Ghazali (RA) said:
"Kissing a non-mahram woman is like committing Zina with seventy virgins. Zina with a virgin is like Zina with seventy thousand married women."
(Mukashifatul Quloob, Chapter 22, Page 169)
⚖️ Worldly Punishment
For unmarried persons: 100 lashes
For married persons: Stoning to death in an open field
🌙 INTIMACY DURING RAMADAN
📖 Quranic Permission
Allah Almighty says:
"It is made lawful for you to go to your wives on the nights of fasting."
(Kanzul Iman, Para 2, Surah Baqarah, Verse 187)
🍽️ Kaffarah for Breaking Fast
Hazrat Abu Huraira (RA) narrates:
A man came to the Prophet* 🌹 *and said: "O Messenger of Allah, I am destroyed!"
The Prophet asked: "What destroyed you?"
He replied: "I was intimate with my wife while fasting."
The Prophet said: "Free a slave."
He said: "I cannot."
The Prophet said: "Fast for two consecutive months."
He said: "I cannot."
The Prophet said: "Feed sixty poor people."
He said: "I cannot."
Later, a basket of dates was brought. The Prophet said: "Take this and give it in charity."
The man said: "To someone poorer than me? There is no one poorer!"
The Prophet smiled and said: "Feed your family."
(Bukhari Sharif, Volume 1, Page 259; Mishkat Sharif, Page 176)
⚠️ Important Rulings for Fasting
| Situation | Ruling |
|---|---|
| Intimacy during fasting day | Fast breaks; Kaffarah required |
| Intimacy at night | Permissible until Fajr |
| Remaining in state of impurity | Fast valid, but delaying Ghusl is sinful |
| Wet dream while fasting | Fast remains valid |
| Intentionally causing emission | Fast breaks |
📝 QUICK REFERENCE
🌟 Virtues of Nikah
| Hadith | Summary |
|---|---|
| Mishkat 2962 | Nikah completes half the Deen |
| Ibn Majah 1913 | Nikah is my Sunnah |
| Bukhari 136 | Marry even with an iron ring |
👁️ Purdah Commandments
| Reference | Ruling |
|---|---|
| Surah Noor 31 | Lower gaze, guard chastity, wear veil |
| Tirmizi 1173 | Woman is 'Awrah; going out invites Shaytan |
| Mishkat 2991 | Curse on deliberate gazing |
💑 Rights Summary
| Wife's Rights | Husband's Rights |
|---|---|
| Kind treatment | Obedience |
| Mehr fulfillment | Not refusing intimacy |
| Justice between co-wives | Gratitude |
| Good companionship | Guarding his wealth/honor |
🤲 CONCLUSION
Let Us Remember
"The best among you is the one who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family."
(Tirmizi Sharif)
May Allah:
Grant us righteous spouses
Bless us with pious children
Enable us to follow the beautiful Sunnah of our Beloved Prophet 🌹
Protect our families from Shaytan
Make our homes filled with peace, love, and blessings
Ameen, Summa Ameen
